Lessons From the "Front"
Six weeks can be a long time. As of tomorrow, I will have spent six weeks in the classroom; six weeks at a school in the heart of Saint Louis, working with eighth graders who have precious little going for them in their lives.
In these first six weeks, I have met a 13-year-old student (soon to be 14) who has a one year old baby girl. I've met a 14-year-old student who has now made four trips to juvenile detention centers here in the city, mostly for drug-related offenses (the student is one such center currently). I've wasted hours on the phone trying to negotiate with the juvenile justice system to be allowed to visit this student, with no success. I've met a handful of talented, motivated, and genuinely caring educators who have taught me loads about what works and doesn't work in classroom management. And I've met more teachers than I would like to admit who are offering absolutely no support, help, or educational value to our students.
As I sat down earlier in the week and reflected on the major lessons I've learned so far, the following few are what I came up with. I don't care to make any assumptions about whether these lessons are universally applicable to all urban education settings; in fact I am quite certain that at least a couple of the lessons are only applicable to me. Nevertheless, I think these observations may shed at least a little light on what is really happening in America's least advantaged schools... and how we might overcome the shared challenges.
Lesson #1: Calling a student "Sir" or "Ma'am" (or Mr. / Mrs. followed by their last name) is much more effective than asking them to call you "Sir" or "Ma'am". On the first day of school, out of a mixture of nervousness, respect, and confusion (our class rosters had first and last names mixed up and were missing about half of the names), I began what has remained an important habit: I call each and every student "Sir" or "Ma'am" when responding to them, and if I call their name it is always "Mr. Johnson" or "Ms. Antonette". The impact that this has had, at least from what I can tell, is significant: the students are used to being told to respect adults and to do what adults tell them to do, but they are not as used to being 100% fully respected by adults. The names we call them are just one small symbol of the respect that we as educators can show, but it is demonstrative of the kind of respect we need to be showing every moment in school. It's not enough to preach respect to these students--since so many of them have heard the preaching before but continue to hit, swear, insult, and otherwise abuse their peers and teachers. We have to model it too.
Lesson #2: Positive reinforcement should not be seen as a result or product of a good class... it should be seen as a cause of a good class. I'm still working on this lesson every day, but the more I think about it the more I realize that complimenting a student for good work and behavior (or even ordinary work and behavior) is much more likely to produce solid work and behavior in the future than is chastising or berating a student for negative behaviors. In truth, I think the biggest deficit that many of our nation's most under-privileged youth have experienced growing up is not a deficit of people telling them when they're doing something wrong, but rather a shortage of people telling them when they are doing something right! My best days in class are almost always the ones where I make a point of complimenting and giving positive reinforcement to all of my students, most critically the ones who other teachers see as "problem" students.
Lesson #3: An educator cannot afford to take anything personally. I learned this one from my cousin who is a teacher in Berkeley, CA - and he is right on. When something is bothering my students and they take it out on me, it is a natural reaction to take it to heart and wonder what I have done wrong. To be sure, there have already been many instances in which I have made mistakes to students (and apologized for them aftewards). But more often than not, student complaints and acting out have nothing to do with the teacher him or herself, and so the teacher must march on and do the best they can to teach the entire classroom.
Lesson #4: Parents will only help teachers out if they think the teacher cares about their kids. Seem like an obvious one? It should be - but I'm constantly surprised at the ratio of positive to negative phone calls that our staff is making home. In fact, I'm certain that 90% of our teachers have only used their office phones to make negative phone calls home to parents--that is if they even bother to call at all. I've learned early on that in order to get support at home from these parents (or, as is the case with many of our students, aunts, grandparents, and other legal guardians) we need to tell them what is good about their children much, much more often than what is bad. So even if I have to lie through my teeth, I will start off every negative phone call home with a positive thing that the student has done in my classroom.
I"m sure more lessons will come, but this is what I thought of for now... feel free to comment with other ideas, corrections, etc.!
